When a woman’s trying to impress you and establish her value, there’s a common way that she does it, and the way she does it has been confusing men for millennia, so today I wanted to talk about it. But first! A story…
Two days ago I had a friend who’s a supermodel (not joking. She’s a full-on, $20K a day supermodel) call me up and want to shoot a game of pool. I’ve hung out with her 4 or 5 times in social circle situations and she has had sex with a friend of mine a couple times.
I go to play a game of pool with her and she tells me about how Adrian Grenier (the hairy guy from Entourage) has been hitting her up and wanting to take her out, sleep with her, go around in his Porsche, etc.
That’s it. That’s the story.
So my question to you is how would this make you feel if it happened to you?
Most guys in this situation would look at it like “How the hell can I compete with that shit? This famous rich dude is trying to get this chick and I don’t have X that he has.” Maybe it’s money or fame or a car or who knows, but most guys would look at the area they’re insecure about and reason that the guy in question has that, so she probably likes him and therefore she’s explaining to me that she likes him, not me.
If a girl tells you about how guys like her and blah blah blah, there’s a good chance you couldn’t be more wrong. You see women want men who are wanted by other women. Because of this, when they like a guy they often try to paint the picture that many men want them, because in the woman’s mind “If I show him that many men want me, then it’ll make him want me too.” This goes for supermodels and dumpster-diving chicks both.
Really what was happening in the situation I had with the supermodel is that she wanted me to like her. Wrap your head around that shit for a second. Why would this supermodel who is getting hit on by the highest level of guys want to get at me???
Because game. That’s why.
I’ve literally shown this girl no signs that I like her, other than that we’re friends. I’ve also demonstrated my dominance and skillset repeatedly around her. She knows my demeanor, my presence, my look, my humor, all of it. And I’ve shown her zero sign that I like her, so she’s confused as to whether or not she could get me.
This is the first step in getting attraction.
Next, I just wait and let that attraction mature from question into more thought, then into desire. Yes, she has had sex with my buddy before, but she was really drunk and fucked up, she told me. True? Probably not, but the fact that she minimizes her involvement with my friend also tells me that she wants to be as distant about her connection with him as possible because she wants me to know she’s available if I want her.
At this point, the game has been straight forward. I wait for her to call or text, then if i’m available I go hang out. If i’m not I tell her i’m busy. Since right now i’m very busy in the female department, i’ve told her no about 50% or more of the time, and it’s working out to my advantage.
What will happen? Well, i’ll continue letting her text me and hanging out when I can, then when the time’s right and maybe we’ve had a few cocktails then maybe i’ll go for it, but before that happens i’m going to make damn sure she’s very ripe and wanting it. There’s nothing worse than a guy who gets chased and then makes a move too early.
So the lesson today is simple. If you hear a woman talking about how so many guys like her or how a specific guy likes her, it’s likely to be because she wants YOU, not him. So don’t lose hope or not try to get her, because you’re closer to getting her than you might have thought.
Thanks for reading.