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We all know that women “want” (or think that they want) long-term relationships, marriage, etc.  We see this idea repeated in mainstream media over and over, and women will even tell you to your face that they want long term relationships.  So then why is there a HUGE divorce rate in the US?  What’s the …

It’s easy to dream when you start learning about women.  We dream about getting that one hot girl we like.  We dream about maybe getting a girlfriend or even a wife.  Some of us don’t even dream about marriage cause we’re too busy dreaming about threesomes and dating multiple women. Regardless of what you’re dreaming …

Last night I literally had a dream that I was on Joe Rogan’s podcast and we were talking about what I do.  He asked me about dominance struggles and about the first rule of attraction, and then I said “Well, yeah.  Basically what I do is rapid socialization of my clients until they have the …

Yep, you read it right, the entire dating industry is FUCKED! Why, you ask? Because I’m learning faster than ever how to reach people and over a year after launching GirlfriendFastlane.com, I’m making a very BOLD MOVE. Right now I’m doing what I call my “initial public offering” of GirlfriendFastlane.com.  I want YOU to be …

Since I’m going to start ruling the entire pickup community (one of these days  😒), I decided yesterday to watch a few videos on YouTube of RSD to get an idea of my competition.  I watched the latest video where Tyler is in Hawaii, another one with him and Jeffy in Vegas talking about how …

HEre’s an old post I wrote in July of 2008: At some point in your progress through the game, you might find out that you can open, attract, kino, and get numbers well. Great. However, many people that are in this position will get those numbers but convert them into a very low percentage of …

If I’m honest, not a lot of things interest me in the dating realm anymore, because honestly at this point I feel like I’ve heard it all.  However, one thing that does interest me is creating brand new, profound ways to understand the dating process, and today I’d like to share one such realization with …

Yooooo guys!  Hi again.  I know it’s been awhile. Today I wanna talk about what’s been on my mind lately, and it’s likely something you’ve not heard before. Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about the evolution of game.  I’ve been chatting with some “older” students who have trained with every company across the board, …

I wanna tell you about someone who did an approach on my student and I while we were in a set last weekend.   So I’m coaching my latest client and a guy comes up and to our 5 set (me, student, 3 women) and just interrupts all of us saying “What’s up everybody?”   …

That old adage you’ve heard “hot girls don’t get hit on much because guys are all scared to hit on them, so if you hit on them you’ll probably stand a good chance” is total bullshit.  Hot girls get hit on all the fucking time, and have been getting hit on since their nipples first …

Everything in a pickup is about the struggle for dominance.  Sure there are pre-requisites to the dominance struggle, like presence, BL, blah blah fucking blah but where the rubber meets the road in pickup is how you do when it comes to the dominance struggle.  Sure, you can get around it and not totally dominate. …

Ever spent time with your friends at a bar and seen a random guy pass your group like six times, just looking around?   Someone always says something like “Dude, that guy’s walked by like 100 times already, WTF?” When guys are unaware or just first learning to approach, it’s very common for them to unknowingly …

Do girls ever catch you checking them out? Do girls know that you know they’re around? How would a girl know that a guy’s checking them out, and how does that make them feel? How does it affect your status/chances with them? There’s much talk in the dating community about how girls perceive men when …

Happy Holidays, men!  Here’s that other review from Chicago…  1 on 1 Review of Jake P. in Chicago: I want to start off by saying that this is my second 1 on 1 coaching with Jake, and all I can say is that I am so upset with myself that I WAITED THIS LONG TO …

So I just got back from a trip to Chicago this past weekend and I had the pleasure of being hosted by the Chicago lair on kind of a last minute basis.  Thanks again to my contact there for making that happen (not sure if you’d want your name mentioned but you know who you …

Everyone talks all day long about how if you’re good looking and you have a lot of money that you can get women.  Of course we’ve all seen some ugly dude with a hot chick, but is he really sleeping with her?  Or haven’t you seen a really good-looking guy who never really gets a …

I got an email from a student a few months ago as a review, and I somehow managed to forget to post it, so here it is for you guys.  When I teach students, I always tell them that if they would like to review me that they should be totally honest, putting both the …

Women will unapologetically leave you or stop communication with you at any stage in a relationship.  It could be in the first two seconds of meeting you, and it could be two years after being with her.  Either way, it’ll likely leave you wondering just what the hell happened, and the information you’re looking for …

This weekend I walked up to a seriously hot trendy girl, and within about 15 minutes she went from being extremely apprehensive about me to actually standing by the side of me, lowering her head, and nuzzling into me.  We had a nice makeout.  We were in our own world.  And we’re going to meet …

I hear the same question all the time from men…  “How can I have an attractive identity and how can I use that identity to get women?”  Today I wanna give you a simple formula that’ll keep women entering your life for years to come… The men i’ve witnessed who are the most successful with …

A special thanks today to the guys who responded to my last blog post and took me up on the phone coaching!  Wow, what a weekend!  I had such a crazy weekend I can’t even write about parts of it. After talking with so many guys for so long, i’ve been able to isolate and …

Sorry guys, i’m not actually talking about humping a girl in this post.  Womp womp.  I know how you like your humping stories.  Instead, today I wanted to talk a little about how and why many guys fail at many things in their life, including learning dating skills.  If you’re interested in figuring out what …

For the past number of months i’ve been doing a little experiment designed to see how quickly I can take selected students from “Zero to Hero.”  I’ve been curious for a very long time how quickly I can take a student from zero sexual opportunity and a low skill level to having more sex and …

When a woman’s trying to impress you and establish her value, there’s a common way that she does it, and the way she does it has been confusing men for millennia, so today I wanted to talk about it.  But first!  A story… Two days ago I had a friend who’s a supermodel (not joking. …

Everyone seems to want to have sex with the bartender.  She’s hot, charismatic, and she’s always showing her cleavage in an effort to turn your $1 tip into more.  So what’s the deal with these women and how can you get one?  Let’s talk it out. First off, you should know what you’re getting yourself …

I wanted to talk about a situation that happened to me recently where I was out with a girlfriend, and a new rotation girl saw us at the bar.  I originally didn’t want to risk taking a girl to a bar where I knew there was a possibility that another girl I was sleeping with …

Review of Coaching Session with Jake P. What struck me the most about Jake was how much he listened to what I had to say and how genuinely interested he was in hearing my story. He was not just clocking in, and I could feel that his heart was actually in this. He would ask …

Women are slick when it comes to relationships… far slicker and smarter than the average man.  I’d say women are not only smarter about relationships on the whole, they’re also better informed than their male counterparts.  They’ve figured out a trick to get men to commit, and men everywhere are falling for it, so i’d …

Valentines Day is tomorrow gentlemen.  So strap in, because whether you’ve got love or not, you’re in for a mental and emotional ride.  In preparation, I wanna go through some things to do and not do for your specific situation with women.  With any luck, you can make it a great day! Before I talk …

We all have habits we’d like to break or start.  Maybe you’d like to smoke or drink less, start working out more, or (for most guys reading my blog) you’d like to be in the habit of approaching more and doing better with women.  But why doesn’t that happen, even when we seem to try …

Have you ever started to date a woman and you start dating, maybe you have sex once or twice, then somehow you just can’t manage to setup another date or get her to text you much because she’s just so seemingly busy?  Well today I wanna talk about why that happens and how you can …

Today I wanna talk about a classic woman “move” that I like to call the ‘Ol Boner & Bye Bye.  If you’ve ever had sex before, the odds are this has happened to you.  The ‘Ol Boner & Bye Bye is where you’re hanging out with a girl, you start making out and you get …

Ahhhh, the age old question.  How do I get my old girlfriend back?  How do I get my old fling back?  How do I get an old acquaintance back who I never got to sleep with? The answer to these questions is FAR simpler than you think, and as you might guess once you’ve learned …

Although we all like to think that we can meet women anywhere and in any situation, the reality is that when meeting women we should be conscious of how the situation we meet the woman in can affect the way she thinks and feels about us.  The last thing we want is to come off …

I coached a student last weekend and he sent me this review.  Enjoy.  Review of Coaching Session with Jake P. What struck me the most about Jake was how much he listened to what I had to say and how genuinely interested he was in hearing my story. He was not just clocking in, and …

We’ve all heard the terrible excuses women give us not to hangout, and we know they’re complete bullshit.  “I know honey, I know.  You’re deathly ill, you have a family emergency, your friend just broke up and you stayed over at her place last night, your grandma called, and your dog ate your fucking homework… …

Anytime you’re involved in a relationship, sooner or later the woman you date is gonna throw a temper tantrum to try and get her way.  Usually this means she’ll leave wherever you’re at in hopes that you’re going to follow her.  She might have the taxi pull over on the side of the road and …

Many of us go through our daily lives being needy in a variety of ways.   We’re needy of attention, of response, and needy to give response.  Are there actually needs in these places, or have we created them unnecessarily?  And if we’ve unnecessarily created these needs, then how does our creation of unnecessary needs …

In my 6+ years of coaching men, I’ve witnessed hundreds of different philosophies and strategies for being happy in life when it comes to dating and relationships.  At whatever stage of life they’re in, men have different versions of what they think is the next relationship that will make them happy in life.  I’ve seen …

It’s amazing what we can accomplish in just one night!  Here’s the review from “Particle Man” Saturday night.   Here’s the student’s review: Review I had a one-on-one training with Jake last Saturday and don’t mind giving away the punchline up front: he took me from just about zero to my first same night lay ever. …

So i’m taking a break from writing my Texting e-Book to write this post…  Germany just won the World Cup!  WOOHOOO!  Many of you know that I travel quite a bit, and one of the trips I took was to Germany in 2006 to watch the World Cup.  The excitement, the people, and the worldwide …

Hey guys.  My new podcast is on the way, so today I recorded my first bit of audio with my friend Gabriel.  Check it out and be sure to let me know what you think!  Enjoy…. Click here to follow me on Twitter

Ever been around someone whose telling you too much information?  Like maybe how they had anal sex with someone you know, how they have a crazy rash on their _____, or how they rubbed it to the bra advertisements in the Sunday paper?  It probably made you feel alienated and like you don’t want the …

I think there are times for all of us when we wish we could change the responses we get from women.  We get in a fight with a woman or have a tough experience and instantly we think “What the hell!?!  Why couldn’t she just do ______???”  But did you know that it’s possible to …

About a month or two ago, I was out at a bar I haven’t been to in a long time, and a certain bartender caught my eye there.  I made my way to the bar to order from her, and when I got my drink, it tasted terrible … This was a great opportunity to talk …

While normally i’m spewing out what’s in my head to you guys, it’s still just me talking about myself… a lot 🙂  So today I wanted to share a review with you guys from a student who I taught this past week.  He flew in from Canada and was able to more than double his …

In the beginning of learning dating skills, things can be rough… and desperate.  If you’re in the middle of a long dry spell it can be impossible to tell a girl to hit the road because she’s done something you don’t like.  After all, she’s the closest thing you’ve got to a chance to get …

Today I want to share with you a simple technique that’s one of my favorites for meeting women.  This technique can single-handedly gain attraction with a girl and show marvelous social skills.  The technique is role-playing, and though most students can do it after being shown, many do it in a terrible way that ends …

So my relationship with the D11 girl is officially over.  And it didn’t end how you would think…As I do many weekends, the weekend of April 27th was a coaching weekend.  I had two one-on-one trainings scheduled for the weekend, so I told my D11 girl that I couldn’t hangout Friday or Saturday night because …

So after my post the other day I got a couple great questions from Shwayone that I’d like to address, as well as i’d like to go a bit further with this topic.  If you haven’t yet read my last post on orbiting “I didn’t close my D11…”, please do so before continuing so you’re …

In my last blogpost “Dead-Airing Explained,” I talked about an Israeli girl that I had just met and what my upcoming strategy would be for closing her.  After some thought, I decided to completely do a 180 on my strategy, and in today’s blogpost i’m going to talk all about it.  The question i’m posing today …

While doing some phone consulting with a student over the past few weeks, we came to the point of analyzing his texting game and I knew there was a problem going on.  He told me that he’s losing girls through texting quite a bit, so I had him send me a texting conversation and what …

The results are in!!!  from my situation with the girl in my first post on clarity, and they might not be what you would expect… So….  we left off last blogpost with me sending a girl a series of three texts that were designed to provide me with some clarity with where she was at …

Women are tough to understand when you’re new to gaming and even sometimes when you’re at an advanced level.  When I was new to learning dating skills, I had NO CLUE whether or not a girl liked me or not.  Not one.  Knowing whether or not a girl liked me was a complete guess from …

Many guys who are learning dating are simply at a place where they’d like to start having sexual experiences with as many women as they possibly can.  For most guys this is a stage that I hope they’ll pass through eventually, but I get it, they want to “sow their wild oats” as my parents …

Normally….  I would NEVER tell you to engage in behaviors such as meeting parents, spending entire weekends with girls, spending 3 days in a row with them, taking vacations, and doing other couple-type activities until you’re ready to be shacked up with a girl, but for those of you who maybe aren’t the best at …

Tis the season for not wanting to be alone.  Just last night a girl i’m dating called me her boyfriend out of nowhere, then later called herself my girlfriend, then at the end of the night apologized, saying that she’s not used to being single around the holiday season.  Her single friend was also over, …

Women who are extremely socially connected are rare.  When you find one, tempting as she may be to have sex with, I would recommend you exercise a completely different plan of action…But first, just what the heck is a social connector?  I define a social connector as a person who is quite naturally an extremely …

OR!… as we like to call it the “Rate-A-Chick” system.  Wondering how your chick stacks up against another one?  Here’s a fool-proof method to know for sure which one is truly better. This rating system is pretty simple, and it’s based on the value a woman offers to your life.  There are three categories of …

We’ve all gotten the whole “Who is this” response from texting a girl.  So how can we keep it from happening altogether?  I like to preemptively strike the whole texting chain right when I get the girl’s phone number.  To do this, I simply take her number and tell her…“I’m texting you right now, did …

The story always sounds something like this…  “So i’ve tried to pickup women for awhile and it’s not working for what I think are x, y, and z reasons.  Now that i’ve convinced myself that I can’t try any harder, i’ve come up with 10 logical reasons not to try to meet women and work …

One of the easiest ways women catch their men sleeping around on them is by finding miscellaneous objects left in your house from other women.  It could be something as obvious as a video on your computer, a pair of panties, or even a stain on your sheets, but no matter what it is, when …

So you’re a up-and-coming man and you want to ready your house for glory.  What are the bare essentials you need at your place so that she keeps coming back?  And if you’ve got those down already and wanna go the extra mile, then what?  For my blogpost today i’m going to tell you all …

I’ve seen it over and over, so many times it makes me wanna vomit.  I see guys in relationships who are so afraid of making their woman mad that they’ll do anything to keep it from happening.  The process is simple:  Guy gets girl, guy doesn’t want to lose girl cause she’s his source of …

That old adage you’ve heard “hot girls don’t get hit on much because guys are all scared to hit on them, so if you hit on them you’ll probably stand a good chance” is total bullshit.  Hot girls get hit on all the fucking time, and have been getting hit on since their nipples first …

Everything in a pickup is about the struggle for dominance.  Sure there are pre-requisites to the dominance struggle, like presence, BL, blah blah fucking blah but where the rubber meets the road in pickup is how you do when it comes to the dominance struggle.  Sure, you can get around it and not totally dominate. …

Just over a year ago I wrote about a technique I use where I avoid eye contact with people in a bar to create the impression in others that i’m a high-value person and make women intrigued by the combination of my presence and visually apparent lack of neediness.  Even before I developed this technique, …

One of the coolest things i’ve learned through studying dating is that I can consciously take steps to make myself  into whatever kind of guy I would like to be.  If i’d like to, I can become a crazy guy, an aggressive guy, a gentle guy, a warm guy, or really any type of guy …

Lately one of my favorite things to do when talking with women is something called a role-reversal.  A role reversal is the acting out of a situation where the man takes on the traditional role of the female and vice-versa.  In other words, if in a situation a female normally would do X and a …

The ability to get yourself into a talkative mood (called getting “in-state”) is an essential skill in pickup.  When you’re in-state you’ll do your best pickup by far.  You’ll have great energy, be able to better think on the fly, extend routines naturally, and you can even seem drunk to others when you’re totally sober …

Hey guys,  I thought for today’s blog post i’d share some transcription of the audio from one of the weekly Monday night theory sessions I teach in Hollywood.  This particular night we were talking about texting, flaking, and how to mirror varying levels of disinterest with the girl.  This conversation is great because many guys not …

I think every girl in the whole entire world tells stories about how men want them.  They tell them to guys before a relationship, during a relationship, and i’m not sure what they say after cause once i’ve dumped them I don’t exactly call to catch up.  Regardless of when they do it, the story’s …

Girls tell guys that they’re lesbians all the time to get rid of them.  No doubt this practice has been alive since the dawn of time and will continue to the end of it.  In fact, present day statisticians report that girls tell guys that they are lesbians an average of eleventy billion times each …

I just woke up this morning from one of the best sleeps i’ve had in years.  After an exhausting two days and only three hours of sleep, I fell asleep last night about 6pm  and finally woke up at about 8am.  I feel amazingly energetic today and i’m enthusiastic about everything that i’m about to …

Girls have shit going on in their lives, tons of it.  They’ve got a dance class tonight (wait, it is Tuesday right?), one of their girlfriends needs emotional support, twenty orbiters are texting them to go out, they lost their cell phone, their mom is sick, they’re emotional about something today (well everything), they’re supposed …

Just got back from a two week trip to see the fam back in Iowa, and wow how things have changed with me in the three years i’ve been in Los Angeles.  When I showed up here I was pretty naive and I experienced quite the culture shock.  It took me about three months to …

We’ve all heard weighted insinuations from women.  Questions like “Where have you been all night?” and “Did you just check her out?” often come weighted and serious in tone to make us feel like we’ve done something wrong when sometimes (okay, very few times) we actually haven’t done anything wrong at all.  Either way, the …

There comes a time in every man’s life where he walks into a situation and for some reason it seems like the whole room stops and looks directly at him.  It’s probably because they did stop and they are looking.  Have you been there? Usually it’s a bar or a party you’re walking into or …

Today I woke up, got on the forum to answer some posts from students, and I came upon a common scenario I wanted to write a little bit about.  A student wrote this: “Went out to X street with my wings.  Went direct on everyone.  Most of the sets OPENED well initially, even the all …

So I was about to get up out of bed this morning when I noticed an ad at the side of my computer screen.  It read “Fuck 6 girls a week… using this 1 weird trick.”  Then at the bottom of the ad it said “Free video reveals 1 weird trick that makes girls want …

I had a great question from a student today and he had an issue that’s a very common one so I’d like to share it with you guys.  First of all though, if you haven’t read my post “How to NOT get into a relationship,” I’d recommend you to read that first before continuing.   The student said: …

Over and over I get asked about age and how to handle it.  Students believe wholeheartedly that somehow their situation with their age is unique and that it needs special attention.  Well i’m here to tell you that your age isn’t a big deal, and regardless of what it is i’ve got a surefire formula …

I wrote a bit in April about Insecurity and I would like to touch again on insecurity and specifically how it relates to experience level.  Now when I was an average frustrated guy, boy was I ever insecure.  I’d worry all the time about losing any girl I met, even if I was just orbiting!  My motivating …

How do you “Go Sexual” with a girl?  When? I just answered a form of this question on an online forum that I thought i’d share, cause it’s been coming up a lot in the past couple days.  In fact, I just did a theory session with the pickup mansion students on Monday night where I …

Normally on Monday nights I teach the pickup mansion residents theory for about an hour, but last night I decided to switch things up and head out with them for the night to do a spot check on their game and spend some time not in hardcore workshop mode with them.  We hit a popular …

Ever in a situation where you’re drinking with others and someone buys shots for the group but you don’t want to drink yours?  This can be a rough situation.  On one hand you would love to accept someone’s offer and give them the satisfaction they seek from buying for everyone, but you also don’t want …

Day to day I see a steady number of guys who have trouble with women and blame it on the woman consistently.  They say things like “Oh, that girl must’ve been on the rag” or “She’s a slut anyway” or something to that effect.  Guess what dudes?  Maybe it’s you that’s the problem.Now obviously it’s …

Just had a suggestion in a comment on my last post asking if I would write about letting girls go, and how professionals (me specifically) deal with letting girls go whom we’ve had an emotional connection with in the past.  To cover all bases here, I wanna talk about not only dealing with post-breakup feelings, …

I’ve been doing affiliate marketing for a few months now, and have compiled TONS of data on women through advertising on Plenty of Fish.  Literally my ads have been shown millions of times already, so I decided to share with you some interesting information i’ve found about the profiles of women who are actually “biting.” …

Lately i’ve been coming to the realization that many guys believe that when they approach a girl who is separated from them by some distance, they should appear “natural” when doing so.  For some, this means maybe taking a cell phone out and meandering around before approaching, and for others it might mean taking kind …

Ahhhh, the age-old question.  WTF does it mean and how should we answer it?  I think guys in general don’t like this question because they fear giving the wrong answer.  We all hear this question and immediately start thinking about how not to answer it and what would happen if we did.  I’ve even heard …

No time for messing around today.  What i’ve got to talk about here is serious business for those of you still half-assing things.  Today’s topic is burning shit to the ground, making for damn sure that the girl you’re into is either in or out.  NO MIDDLE GROUND.  Burn the boats, there’s no turning back! …

Hey guys,  I got a question today from a student about going exclusive with a kinky girl and I wanted to share it with you because I feel it’s an important issue to learn for all guys.  Here it is: Hi guys, I’m faced with a dilemma and I need some advice. This is my …

Ever spent time with your friends at a bar and seen a random guy pass your group like six times, just looking around?   Someone always says something like “Dude, that guy’s walked by like 100 times already, WTF?” When guys are unaware or just first learning to approach, it’s very common for them to unknowingly …

I believe that everyone in life chooses their level of happiness.  I believe that happiness results from understanding the things we want in life and being patient and motivated enough to form our lifestyle around getting them.  I believe that motivation comes from both inspiration and frustration at times, and regardless of which one we’ve …

I used to drink every time I went out for the night.  Many of you know I bartended for a couple years, and even before that I loved to drink.  It tastes great, I love the process of drinking, and it often got me in a social mood when I otherwise wouldn’t have been social …

After some attempts at adding a video feed from YouTube to my page, I’ve decided just to include videos as posts so that you don’t have to watch videos of cats instead of me.  This video’s from a year ago in Cancun at Spring Break.  I met a Spanish speaking girl and wrote my name …

America Sucks! The industry standard for your working life is 40 hours a week, 50 weeks a year. You get 2 weeks vacation if you’re lucky. Many people who choose to comply with this bullshit request from employers go through a period in their lives where they have little to no: 1. Self development2. Personal/dating …

Do girls ever catch you checking them out? Do girls know that you know they’re around? How would a girl know that a guy’s checking them out, and how does that make them feel? How does it affect your status/chances with them? There’s much talk in the dating community about how girls perceive men when …

I’ve been getting a number of guys asking what they should do when they text a girl and get the response “who is this?” The reason this is often difficult to figure out is because often questions and action come before actual thought. Guys often don’t take the time to discern what the context of …