I’ve seen it over and over, so many times it makes me wanna vomit.  I see guys in relationships who are so afraid of making their woman mad that they’ll do anything to keep it from happening.  The process is simple:  Guy gets girl, guy doesn’t want to lose girl cause she’s his source of pussy and he’s not quite sure if he can get something like her again, guy does anything girl says and anything he can to appease her, eventually girl gets bored and cheats, guy loses girl, guy is whamboozeled and can’t for the life of himself understand what happened, guy wants the girl back, guy turns into a whiney bitch boy riddled with post-breakup drama and one-itis.  You don’t wanna turn into a whiney bitch do you?  Good.  Let me tell you now not to turn into a whiney bitch.
The process of not turning into a whiney bitch is very difficult because it requires time, work, patience, and effort.  Guys don’t do it because they’re lazy.  However, the men who do go through this process experience true abundance with women and true happiness.  They’re not constantly held down by women and they’ll never have to worry about being alone because they know that there are plenty of women in the world and they know that they can have the same thing they’ve got right now with another woman quite easily.  That’s why the simple process below is worth your time and effort.

Step 1:  Show yourself abundance with women

Step 2:  Choose a woman from the many who would love to be with you

Step 3:  Make sure she knows that she can and will be immediately replaced if she ever leaves

Step 4:  Enjoy your relationship

Now that you understand the basic process, let’s crack this open in a bit more detail.

Step 1:  Show yourself abundance with women

For most guys this step never happens, period.  My best guess is only about 5% of men (at the very most) have abundance with women.  What is abundance?  Abundance is when you can have more women than you would ever need or want; when you’re in a position to satisfy your desires anytime you would like to.  Simple.

Realizing abundance in your life is much more difficult than simply understanding what it is.  If you’re not good with women, you’ve got a lot of learning and practicing to do.  Get out there, try talking with women, get in some conversations, and get to work.  When you’ve practiced and learned over the course of a couple years (less with professional assistance like workshops, one on one trainings, pickup mansion) you’ll start experiencing for the first time being sexually active with more than one girl.  Maybe you’re sleeping with one, still sarging, and then you meet another who you start sleeping with.  This is most guys’ first taste of abundance.  They might even get bold and schedule both girls on one day to try and sleep with two girls in one day.

From there, usually practice continues.  The guy might lose one of the girls, or worse feel bad about sleeping with two girls at the same time. When this happens the guy has some work to do on understanding his belief systems and what he really wants, so more practice and learning still need to take place.

When a guy finally starts experiencing a situation where he sleeps with three or more women in a week, every week, this is what we call a “rotation.”  When a guy experiences his first rotation, the heavens open up.  His mind changes, his physiology changes, and the messages he sub-communicates though his body language, mannerisms, speech, etc.  all change.  Guys i’ve seen who get their first rotation are completely different people very soon after this happens.  They speak differently, act differently, and are altogether way easier going and way cooler to be around because they’re not totally preoccupied with women anymore.  Their world changes and they start to learn more about and act more like their true selves because they stop modifying who they are in an effort to get laid.  Instead, they work more towards being who they really are as they drop insecurities and instead openly communicate them, showing even more confidence and character then they’ve been capable of in the past.  Obviously, women only grow more and more attracted to them and the abundance amplifies as a result of this process.  By the time the man realizes he has abundance, he has already had it for some time.  As a reward for his effort, he never has to worry about having love in his life again ever.

Step 2:  Choose a woman from the many who would love to be with you

After a man has abundance for some time, he might find himself in a situation where he has been having sex with or loosely a number of women and decides to have a more committed situation in his life.  Some men don’t find themselves in this situation ever and just want to have sex as much as possible forever.

More commonly I see abundant men realizing at some point that a deeper relationship and deep chemistry offers them more than having many women.  In other words, they start valuing quality over quantity.  This is a mark of maturity in a man, in my opinion.  The men who want a relationship are choosing to do so.  That is, they have the option of having sex without a relationship (unlike a man without abundance), and in spite of the ability to have random sex with random people perpetually, they still choose to go it with one woman faithfully.  This is a tough choice for a man to make, but one who makes this choice definitely has my respect.  Many do this to “settle down” or have kids and a marriage, and when they do, they go forth into that marriage without any illusions as to what will happen and how difficult the relationship is going to be.

Again, this is far different from the man who gets married without having experienced abundance, because commitment that precedes abundance is often riddled with issues.  The man commits out of necessity, then has immaturity, neediness, and wonder that cause strain in his relationship, often resulting in divorce.  Why do I blame this on the man?  Because the vast majority of women, by nature, have experienced abundance and are making the decision to be married out of desire, not necessity.

Step 3:  Make sure she knows that she can and will be immediately replaced if she ever leaves
When a man has completed Steps 1 and 2, NO ACTION is necessary for this step to take place.  Any woman who dates an abundant man knows well and good what she has and that if she leaves she will be replaced.  Simple.  The man should never have to try to make the woman know this.

Step 4:  Enjoy your relationship

This part is great.  When you have abundance and choose to be in a relationship, a woman will know that you’re doing so, and will in-turn “act right.”  She won’t choose to use her anger to try and get her way, because she’ll know that you’re not the type of guy that that tactic will work on.  This makes for a very open relationship as far as communication goes.  Both people are up-front and honest about their needs and what they will and won’t do.  

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So all this is well and good, but in theory it’s easy!  What happens when you’re a guy who is scared of a  girl getting mad and you have an actual instance of it happening in a relationship?  What should you do then?  My advice is to do exactly the thing that she’s threatening to be mad about and see what happens.  Only then will you know if you’re true fears are warranted, when you invite her madness.  When she acts like if you don’t do something she’ll be mad, you could even call it out, saying something like “Oh, or what?  Or you’ll get mad?  Give me a break.”  The simple act of labeling what her behavior is will show her that you aren’t one to be messed with and that you won’t respond with compliance when she uses that tactic on you.  Furthermore, when you exhibit these behaviors, you grow or maintain your share of power in the relationship.  Believe me when I say that a woman in a relationship has a deep desire to maintain the integrity of her relationship and have it go well.  She wants badly to have a serious relationship, and the health of the relationship is generally considered by women to be something they’re cognizant about but men aren’t.  Use this grey area and the potential for the relationship to end to maintain your power only if the situation gets that serious, and you’ll have a much more pleasant experience during the times of peace and comfort.  Enjoy!